blackqueer.life is one of the many independent Mastodon servers you can use to participate in the fediverse.
You guessed it, this server is for Black queer folks to relax, spread out, and be themselves. This is BlackQueerLife.

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Regular reminder that getting up in arms about someone else's boundaries is a pretty good sign that someone is engaging in abusive behavior.

And yes, being upset about allowlist only, FediBlock, or TBS are all examples of this.

Never have I seen a group of people more determined to continue harassment after being muted/blocked/banned than those who lost their minds when we started openly collectivizing our boundaries to keep each other safe. As has always been the case, reactionary behavior means we're doing something right.

Stefan Bohacek
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@tillshadeisgone This also extends to the overall topic of consent on here, if you've witnessed some of the conversations around opt-in vs opt-out fediverse features and third party services.

Seems like it should be easy to just leave people alone, especially when they ask for it. Hm.

Fifi Lamoura
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@tillshadeisgone 💯 It's shocking how many grown ass people still don't understand consent. There's an underlying belief that other people exist only for their use and entertainment, it's treating Othered people as exploitable objects and is dehumanizing and exploitative. Nothing outrages an abuser more than when the person being victimized creates a safe space beyond the reach of their abuse.

Matthew :bi_flat:
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@tillshadeisgone@blackqueer.life It's honestly ironic how Fedi Bros would make post on here saying that it not as toxic as Twitter cause there's moderation and also get pissed off about someone doing the basics of moderation. 🥴

the people's eva
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@matty Like, y'all I'm just doing what exactly I said I would do, which is to make my server a safe place for Black queers!! From all the wailing and gnashing of teeth, you'd think good moderation was cruel and unusual torture. It truly boggles the mind.